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Clue ambassador stories: Advice to my younger self

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The Clue Ambassador Program is a community of people from all over the world using their voices to expand the conversation around menstrual health. This month, we've asked our Ambassadors to share their most valuable advice to their younger self. Here are the stories they had to share.

Fathimath, 19


Where are you from? Malé, Maldives

What's your profession? Student at the University of the West England

Why did you start using Clue?

I started noticing that the periods I had were irregular and I wanted to track them in order to understand them better.

What's your favorite thing to track in Clue?

It's difficult to choose one because all of the options are useful in getting a bigger picture.

What are 3 pieces of advice you would tell your younger self going through puberty?

  1. There are numerous teachers and health care professionals who emphasize the importance of eating right. Sometimes it slips our minds, but eating the right food is essential for someone on their period.
  2. There are no good resources to track your period with but at least you can write down the information about each period. It might seem that periods are the same for each girl when that's not the case, and information on previous periods could be useful later on.
  3. This is a good time to go on the internet and do some research about the changes that are going to happen to your body and the reasons for those changes. Being aware of what's going on with your body will help ease the process and make it easier to embrace the changes.

What are 3 pieces of general advice you would tell your younger self if you had the chance?

  1. There are cool children at school who are not a good influence and even though being a part of their social circle seems important to be in with the cool children do not sweat it.
  2. There are moments when school life seems to drag on as if it is never going to come to an end but it will come to a stop and before that. Enjoy it because it is not going to come again.
  3. There are distractions that are going to distract from achieving to the full potential in school but ignore them and focus harder on studies because it is rare to get a chance to get an education.

Cathy, 50


Where are you from? Redmond, Washington, USA

What's your profession? Program manager

Why did you start using Clue?

I am in pre-menopause and I needed to keep track so I can tell when I'm officially in menopause.

What's your favorite thing to track in Clue?

I just need to know the dates and how long it's been since I've had a period.

What are 3 pieces of advice you would tell your younger self going through puberty?

  1. Everyone is not staring at you and thinking about you. They are too wrapped up thinking about themselves.
  2. Perfectionism is a deadly disease. You think it will make people like you more, but it's the opposite. And it makes you hate yourself more. Find a way to get over it.
  3. If you need help to get through the tough times, get it. Mental health care wasn't that great when I was young, but there are huge advances that make it more effective.

What are 3 pieces of general advice you would tell your younger self if you had the chance?

  1. You are more beautiful than you know. Seriously, just being young adds like 5 million beauty points. At 50 I finally learned to love my body, even though it's wrinklier and jigglier and saggier than it ever was before. I wish I loved my physical self then as much as I love it now. I look back at 30, 40, 45, and wish I could have that body and that face back – at the time I didn't appreciate it.
  2. Don't "settle" for anything less than you deserve. And you probably deserve more than you think you do. You deserve the kind of love you want in your life. If you're not getting it, go find it.
  3. The best way to find a good relationship is to work on your relationship with yourself. Be happy. Have a fulfilling life. Be okay being alone with yourself. If you don't want to be with you, why would someone else?

Akshaya, 19


Where are you from? Bangalore, India

What's your profession? Law student

Why did you start using Clue?

I started using Clue mainly to keep a track of my cycle, but with regular use it's helped me maintain and understand my body and menstrual health with a very holistic perspective.

What's your favorite thing to track in Clue?

Emotions and sleep determine my day, so those have become my favorites to track since both tend to affect my everyday activities.

What are 3 pieces of advice you would tell your younger self going through puberty?

Growing up, periods and female reproductive health were very hush-hush topics in my family. I remember seeing advertisements of sanitary napkins or tampons when I was very young and wondering what they were. I would be too shy to ask my parents about them because I knew that coming from a conservative background, such topics were hard to bring up.

To my younger self:

  1. Be grateful for having teachers in your school who sat you and the girls of your class in 5th grade and explained everything to you for a half a day. The world today is definitely more open to education and awareness about such topics that were once an absolute taboo. Though shopkeepers still wrap your packages in a black carry bag and slide it slowly across the counter, you now have the confidence and a slightly more accepting society, especially if you take the napkins out of the black carry bag and decide to carry it in your hand or put in another normal bag.
  2. Don't be afraid of asking questions. Just make sure you trust that the person you ask will answer your question honestly and not beat around the bush when it comes to discussing periods.
  3. This is a super confusing time for you. There is a whirlwind of emotions, interests and people in your life. Don't let that scare you away from doing the things you love the most. Figure out who you are, accept everything you are in your terms and on your own terms. Your acceptance is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

What are 3 pieces of general advice you would tell your younger self if you had the chance?

  1. Don't quit playing a sport at any cost.
  2. READ! Read like no books will exist tomorrow and don't give this wonderful habit a backseat to other things at any point in your life.
  3. The way you are now will have an impact on the way you perceive things in the future, so make sure you're in the right company. There is nothing wrong in choosing right.
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